3. This isn’t a race issue/ You’re being too sensitive
If a person suggests that something is offensive to their culture, gender identity, or sexual orientation, we should give their opinions some attention, that is — if we’re really supposed to be allies. Saying things like “You’re just being over sensitive,” silences conversations that require people to correct their mistakes.
From Shae Collings ‘The Top 5 Things to Stop Saying to Black Feminists’
Read the whole thing here.

3. This isn’t a race issue/ You’re being too sensitive

If a person suggests that something is offensive to their culture, gender identity, or sexual orientation, we should give their opinions some attention, that is — if we’re really supposed to be allies. Saying things like “You’re just being over sensitive,” silences conversations that require people to correct their mistakes.

From Shae Collings ‘The Top 5 Things to Stop Saying to Black Feminists’

Read the whole thing here.

whimsical-vanilla asked:

The topic of the practice of foot-binding in China was recently discussed with my friends. They said that the "Lotus Foot" was considered a symbol of beauty by Men AND women. I always thought it was something enforced by the Patriarchy. What woman would want to break her feet and bind them if she had the choice? It also made it hard for women to walk and essentially limited them to their homes. I wasn't brave enough to bring this up to my friends though. What do you think of the topic?

From what I understand of the practice, foot binding was done when the women were children, not a time when they have an opinion on what’s beautiful or not.

And I think in a modern day example…very tall, impossibly skinny women are considered a symbol of beauty to both men AND women today. But that is because media has told us that’s what is supposed to be beautiful. Why would a woman go through painful plastic surgery and extreme diets if it “wasn’t her choice”?

Societal constructs are set up all over the world and all throughout history. The men in charge thought this one thing was beautiful, it became the norm so everyone bought into it. We’re taught to believe that it’s what we want. Through constant bombardment of media  and societal pressures.

Specifically the foot binding was not just a symbol of beauty but also of wealth. So if they didn’t bind their babies feet people would “talk.”

We hesitate to say it’s the ‘patriarchy’s’ fault all by it self. But we don’t see any male babies getting their feet bound.

We hope that explains our views on the matter. Thanks for asking.