zhounder
Women know that femininity is both punished and rewarded. We also know that acting more ‘masculine’ — being openly ambitious in the workplace, or ‘pushy’ or ‘brusque,’ or speaking directly — can carry both risk and reward. A few weeks ago, in response to an Atlantic cover story about how the “confidence gap” is holding women back in the workplaces, Jessica Valenti at The Guardian suggested that women refrain from negotiating salaries and asking for raises and promotions because they know it can have negative consequences. It’s not a ‘confidence gap’ that holds us back — or at least, it’s not only that — it’s an accurate reading of the reality. We know we’re supposed to ‘lean in,’ but we also know that doing so can have negative consequences, because leaning in isn’t feminine. Asking a direct question or speaking in a low voice isn’t feminine. Making declarative statements with no friendly, deferential, self-doubting question mark at the end, isn’t feminine. We know that in order to achieve what we want, we sometimes have to expend extra energy making sure that people aren’t uncomfortable with how we talk or dress or behave. We have to collude with the expectation that we should be feminine. But we will also be punished for that femininity. This is the impossibly fine lose-lose line we toe, and though women are, historically speaking, quite new to the workplace, we have been toeing this line for centuries.

What’s Actually Holding You Back In the Office (Hint: It’s Not Your Feminine Voice)

i appreciate most of this piece—and overall, the point is an important one. i do, however, think it’s important to note that

  • this also affects people who may not ID as women but are perceived/forcibly assigned as such. femininity/masculinity is not a neat binary
  • trans women face an entirely different set of damn near insurmountable barriers in the office as it pertains to navigating “acceptable” femininity
  • black women are by no means “quite new to the workplace”

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Leading Men Age, Leading Women Don’t | Vulture

There are more charts if you click through.

I’m so glad this info graphic is going around, because so many people don’t realize how ageism and misogyny play hand in hand and how the sexualization of young girls play into this.

and how absolutely normalized it is via media such as popular film

And we wonder why old men are so creepy. Films have been telling them they need someone younger all their life.

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Marissa Alexander’s Retrial Postponed to December
Marissa Alexander’s retrial has been postponed until December 1 due to questions about whether a new Florida bill can be used retroactively in her case. She originally faced retrial on July 28. 
Alexander, 33, was convicted of aggravated assault after firing a warning shot during a fight with her abusive husband. But she was released on bond last November after an appeals court ruled in September that the jury in her trial was given flawed instructions. She was originally sentenced to 20 years; if convicted in a retrial, Alexander faces up to 60 years in prison.
Judge James Daniel was set to determine this morning if Alexander was eligible for a Stand Your Ground hearing—which was denied to her previously. Florida lawmakers passed a Warning Shot Bill in March that Alexander’s legal team says can protect her, but Governor Rick Scott has yet to sign it into law. Because of that pending law, attorneys on both sides asked for an extension. A decision on whether Alexander can get a Stand Your Ground hearing is now postponed.
One of Marissa Alexander’s most ardent supporters, Mariame Kaba, published an anthology whose proceeds will benefit the Alexander’s legal defense. “No Selves to Defend” is available, and features writing and artwork that “locates Marissa’s case within a historical context that criminalizes and punishes women (particularly Black women) for self-defense.” Only 125 copies of the anthology are available for purchase for $50—and there will be no reprints. 

wowfuck the courtsfuck angela corey

note-a-bear:

sinidentidades:

Marissa Alexander’s Retrial Postponed to December

Marissa Alexander’s retrial has been postponed until December 1 due to questions about whether a new Florida bill can be used retroactively in her case. She originally faced retrial on July 28. 

Alexander, 33, was convicted of aggravated assault after firing a warning shot during a fight with her abusive husband. But she was released on bond last November after an appeals court ruled in September that the jury in her trial was given flawed instructions. She was originally sentenced to 20 years; if convicted in a retrial, Alexander faces up to 60 years in prison.

Judge James Daniel was set to determine this morning if Alexander was eligible for a Stand Your Ground hearing—which was denied to her previously. Florida lawmakers passed a Warning Shot Bill in March that Alexander’s legal team says can protect her, but Governor Rick Scott has yet to sign it into law. Because of that pending law, attorneys on both sides asked for an extension. A decision on whether Alexander can get a Stand Your Ground hearing is now postponed.

One of Marissa Alexander’s most ardent supporters, Mariame Kaba, published an anthology whose proceeds will benefit the Alexander’s legal defense. “No Selves to Defend” is available, and features writing and artwork that “locates Marissa’s case within a historical context that criminalizes and punishes women (particularly Black women) for self-defense.” Only 125 copies of the anthology are available for purchase for $50—and there will be no reprints. 

wow
fuck the courts
fuck angela corey

wilwheaton
There’s a thing that creeps into this conversation … that if you complain about the depiction of women [in comics], it becomes, ‘Well, but ladies — the dudes are idealized too.’ And the thing is that the dudes are idealized for strength and the women are idealized for sexual availability. It’s very, very different. The women’s costumes are cut in such a way that I could give a cervical exam to 90% of our heroines. And I don’t have a medical degree! So if I can find it, that’s impressive.

Kelly Sue DeConnick (via comicquotations)

Just, you know, for clarity’s sake: I said “I don’t have a MEDICAL degree.”  I do have a degree.  But nothing at the University of Texas Department of Theatre and Dance prepared me for locating a cervix.  

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Fixed!

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